There are lots of ugly feelings in LDS congregations in California, according to the Salt Lake Tribune. In "California gay marriage fight divides LDS faithful," Peggy Fletcher Stack speaks to some of the offendees who are choosing to skip LDS services for the duration or even resign their membership. But she also gives the official LDS position:
Latter-day Saints are free to disagree with their church on the issue without facing any sanction, said L. Whitney Clayton of the LDS Quorum of the Seventy. "We love them and bear them no ill will."
There seems to be a disconnect between that straightforward counsel being given by senior LDS leaders and the reality of what is happening on the ground in California. An LDS attorney in California who has published widely quoted arguments against Proposition 8 agrees, noting in the article that "intolerance of contrary opinion seems mostly to come from some California leaders and members."
I don't believe senior leaders anticipated the Prop 8 push was going to create such internal discord in LDS congregations. What is going wrong? Perhaps LDS leaders did not recognize that any active Latter-day Saints felt sympathy or support for gay marriage. Perhaps they did not expect some local leaders in California to make participation in Prop 8 activities the equivalent of a test of one's faith or loyalty to the Church (and it's not even clear that many local leaders have done this). Personally, I am very surprised at reports of Sunday School lessons and Sacrament Meetings devoted to anti-gay marriage sermons — during the Prop 22 push eight years ago this simply did not happen. Who wants to spend Sunday morning attending a political meeting?
I am reminded of the comments in Greg Prince's biography of David O. McKay about the effect serving in the Eisenhower administration had on Ezra Taft Benson (see my summary here). The comments suggested that Elder Benson's political activity had an unwelcome effect on his religious thinking. Let's hope the Prop 8 push does not have the same effect on the Church as a whole.